Updated: Aug 24
If there is one thing you take away from this post, I hope it is this:
Having a rainbow baby does not replace the baby that you lost.
Having a miscarriage doesn’t mean you are mourning a pregnancy - you are mourning the entire life that you envisioned for that baby.
That first cry,. The first time they open their eyes. The first time their fingers reach for yours. Who they will look like. The smile on their face when you walk into the room. First steps. First words… the list goes on and on…
When you have a miscarriage (or stillbirth), you mourn an entire existence.
Having another baby does not, and cannot replace any of that. Having another baby doesn’t erase the pain and sorrow.
It is simply another life to celebrate. Another baby to love and to dream about their future.
Pregnancy after loss changes you. It is challenging. It is humbling. It is terrifying. But it is beautiful.
A rainbow doesn’t mean the storm never happened - it means something beautiful has appeared in the midst of darkness.
If you are reading this and find yourself in this season, I hope you can feel hope. But if you feel sadness and fear, I want you to know that is perfectly normal too. Grief and joy can coexist. And you are doing an incredible job navigating it all.